590 This or That Questions (Funny, Couples, Kids, Work and More)

This or that questions give you two options and ask you to pick one, fast. Coffee or tea? Beach or mountains? There's no wrong answer, which is why they work so well as icebreakers, party games and conversation starters for any age.

Below are 590 of them, sorted by who you're playing with and the mood you want: funny ones for a group chat, clean ones for kids and the classroom, safe ones for work, flirty ones for a date and deep ones for a long night. Use the table to jump to the right list, then read them out loud or paste them anywhere.

Which this or that questions to use

What's in this list:
• 30 best this or that questions (30)
• Funny this or that questions (50)
• This or that questions for adults (40)
• This or that questions for couples (40)
• Flirty this or that questions (25)
• This or that questions for kids (35)
• This or that questions for teens (35)
• This or that questions for students (30)
• This or that questions for work (40)
• This or that icebreaker questions (25)
• This or that food questions (50)
• This or that travel questions (25)
• Pop culture this or that questions (30)
• Personality this or that questions (30)
• Deep and hard this or that questions (35)
• Thanksgiving and Christmas this or that questions (30)
• Rapid-fire this or that questions (40)

The 30 best this or that questions

Start here. These are the pairs that split almost every group down the middle, so they work at a party, in a classroom or on a first call with someone new.

1. Coffee or tea?
2. Beach or mountains?
3. Cats or dogs?
4. Morning person or night owl?
5. Summer or winter?
6. Books or movies?
7. Call or text?
8. Sweet or salty?
9. City or countryside?
10. Pizza or tacos?
11. Plan everything or go with the flow?
12. Early or right on time?
13. Sunrise or sunset?
14. Save or spend?
15. Stay in or go out?
16. Pancakes or waffles?
17. Road trip or flight?
18. Big party or small dinner?
19. Netflix or youtube?
20. Rain or snow?
21. Past or future?
22. Fame or fortune?
23. Hot shower or cold shower?
24. Cook at home or order in?
25. Comedy or horror?
26. Android or iPhone?
27. Front row or back row?
28. Window seat or aisle seat?
29. Invisibility or flying?
30. Sneakers or boots?

Funny this or that questions

Ridiculous choices that nobody can answer with a straight face. Good for group chats, road trips and getting a quiet room laughing.

1. Talk like a pirate or talk like a robot?
2. Sneeze glitter or burp bubbles?
3. Hiccups forever or an itchy nose forever?
4. Fight a goose or fight a swan?
5. Spaghetti hair or broccoli fingers?
6. A permanent clown nose or permanent clown shoes?
7. A laugh track after everything you say or a theme song when you walk in?
8. Walk backwards everywhere or hop everywhere?
9. A pet penguin or a pet llama?
10. Wear socks with sandals forever or a tuxedo to the gym forever?
11. Smell like onions or smell like wet dog?
12. A talking fridge or a singing toilet?
13. Only whisper or only shout?
14. A mustache made of cheese or eyebrows made of sprinkles?
15. A T-rex arm or a giraffe neck?
16. Be chased by a chicken or chased by a crab?
17. Squeak when you walk or honk when you sit?
18. A dog that meows or a cat that barks?
19. No eyebrows or no eyelashes?
20. A nose that changes color with your mood or ears that wiggle when you lie?
21. Autocorrect that changes every word to 'potato' or a keyboard with no vowels?
22. Wear a banana costume to work or a dinosaur costume to a wedding?
23. Bad haircut or bad tattoo?
24. Sing everything you say or rap everything you say?
25. A pocket-sized horse or a horse-sized hamster?
26. A toaster that talks back or a microwave that judges your meals?
27. Sweat ketchup or cry mustard?
28. Always have wet socks or always have a pebble in your shoe?
29. Be a mime or be a clown for a year?
30. Ride a giant snail to work or a tiny elephant to school?
31. Unicorn or dragon?
32. A bathtub full of jelly or a bathtub full of pudding?
33. Have a tail or have whiskers?
34. Accidentally like an old photo or accidentally send a text to the wrong person?
35. Be followed by pigeons or followed by a tiny marching band?
36. Dance every time you hear music or freeze every time you hear a doorbell?
37. A hat that is always on fire (it doesn't burn) or shoes that always squeak?
38. Zombie apocalypse or alien invasion?
39. Ninja or pirate?
40. Mime the news or narrate your own life out loud?
41. Fart loudly in a meeting or trip on stage?
42. Glow in the dark or change color like a chameleon?
43. A voice like a chipmunk or a voice like a movie trailer narrator?
44. Eat a spoonful of mayo or a spoonful of mustard?
45. Clap when you're happy or howl when you're sad?
46. Hair that grows an inch a day or nails that grow an inch a day?
47. Be a talking dog or a flying cat?
48. Lose your phone or lose your keys?
49. Crocs or flip-flops to a fancy dinner?
50. Llama or alpaca?

This or that questions for adults

Grown-up life choices: money, jobs, homes and the small decisions that say a lot about someone. All of them are clean enough for mixed company.

1. Rent or buy?
2. House or apartment?
3. Work from home or office?
4. Four-day week or higher pay?
5. Early retirement or dream job?
6. Big wedding or elope?
7. Kids or no kids?
8. Pets or plants?
9. Credit card or cash?
10. Car or bike commute?
11. Dinner party or night out?
12. Wine or beer?
13. Cocktail or mocktail?
14. Brunch or happy hour?
15. Gym or home workout?
16. Run outside or treadmill?
17. Budget or wing it?
18. IKEA furniture or vintage finds?
19. Minimalist or cozy clutter?
20. Clean as you go or one big clean?
21. Dishwasher or hand wash?
22. Early to bed or late night?
23. Gas stove or induction?
24. Podcast or audiobook?
25. Boss or freelancer?
26. One big vacation or several weekend trips?
27. Hotel or Airbnb?
28. Learn a language or an instrument?
29. Therapy or a long walk?
30. Group chat or one-on-one?
31. New car or used car?
32. Buy experiences or buy things?
33. Date night in or date night out?
34. Spontaneous trip or planned trip?
35. Neighbors you know or total privacy?
36. Lawn or garden?
37. Save for retirement or travel now?
38. Landline nostalgia or smart home everything?
39. Raise or extra vacation days?
40. City apartment or house in the suburbs?

This or that questions for couples

Questions for partners, whether you've been together a month or twenty years. Guess your partner's answer before they say it and see how well you really know each other.

1. Cuddle or space when you sleep?
2. Breakfast in bed or dinner out?
3. Plan the date or be surprised?
4. Matching outfits or never?
5. Love letter or love song?
6. Slow dance or road trip singalong?
7. Hold hands or link arms?
8. Say 'I love you' first or hear it first?
9. Romantic movie or action movie together?
10. Stargazing or sunrise watching?
11. Big gesture or small daily kindness?
12. Pet names or real names?
13. Share dessert or get your own?
14. First kiss or first date memory?
15. Texting all day or one long call at night?
16. Beach honeymoon or city honeymoon?
17. PDA or keep it private?
18. Cook together or one cooks, one cleans?
19. Gift you made or gift you bought?
20. Anniversary trip or anniversary party?
21. Reply fast or reply thoughtfully?
22. Same side of the bed always or switch it up?
23. Wake up early together or sleep in together?
24. Camping together or a spa weekend?
25. Double date or just the two of you?
26. Remember birthdays or remember anniversaries?
27. Argue now or sleep on it?
28. The big spoon or the little spoon?
29. Puzzle night or game night?
30. Shared playlist or separate headphones?
31. Dance in the kitchen or karaoke in the car?
32. Picnic or fancy restaurant?
33. Write vows or use classic vows?
34. Binge a show together or start one each?
35. Joint account or separate accounts?
36. Love at first sight or slow burn?
37. Airport goodbye or surprise visit?
38. Handwritten note or voice memo?
39. Keep every photo or keep every ticket stub?
40. Grow old in the city or by the sea?

Flirty this or that questions

A little playful, never crude. Use these for a first date, a new crush or a long text chat where you want to keep things light.

1. First move or wait for them?
2. Flirty text or flirty look?
3. Candlelit dinner or late-night diner?
4. Dimples or a great smile?
5. Kiss in the rain or kiss under fireworks?
6. Eyes or laugh?
7. Cologne or natural scent?
8. Compliments on your looks or on your brain?
9. Mysterious or an open book?
10. A slow dance or a fast one?
11. A mixtape or a poem?
12. Dress up or come as you are?
13. Sweet or spicy?
14. Morning kisses or goodnight kisses?
15. Chase or be chased?
16. Flowers or chocolates?
17. Voice notes or long texts?
18. A surprise date or a planned one?
19. Eye contact or a shy smile?
20. Forehead kiss or a hug from behind?
21. Drive-in movie or rooftop bar?
22. Late night talks or early morning walks?
23. Matching tattoos or matching rings?
24. A little jealous or not at all?
25. Accent or a great laugh?

This or that questions for kids

Short, clean and easy to answer fast. Great for car rides, lunchboxes, morning meetings and keeping little ones busy for ten minutes.

1. Ice cream or cake?
2. Superhero or wizard?
3. Puppy or kitten?
4. Slide or swings?
5. Crayons or markers?
6. Dinosaurs or sharks?
7. Trampoline or bouncy castle?
8. Chocolate milk or strawberry milk?
9. Zoo or aquarium?
10. Lego or play dough?
11. Cartoons or video games?
12. Treehouse or castle?
13. Bike or scooter?
14. Pancakes or cereal?
15. Rocket ship or submarine?
16. Pirate ship or princess castle?
17. Bath or shower?
18. Monkey or elephant?
19. Drawing or painting?
20. Jump in puddles or build a snowman?
21. Pizza party or pool party?
22. Frogs or butterflies?
23. Read a book or listen to a story?
24. Blue or green?
25. Cookies or cupcakes?
26. Talk to animals or breathe underwater?
27. Robot friend or alien friend?
28. Fairy or giant?
29. Sandbox or splash pad?
30. Stickers or stamps?
31. Nap or no nap?
32. Teddy bear or blanket?
33. Hide and seek or tag?
34. Apples or bananas?
35. Owl or penguin?

This or that questions for teens

School, phones, music and weekend plans. These keep a group of teenagers talking without anyone feeling put on the spot.

1. TikTok or Instagram?
2. Snapchat or texting?
3. Earbuds or headphones?
4. Spotify or Apple Music?
5. Hoodie or jacket?
6. Mall or movies?
7. Sleepover or party?
8. Fast food or homemade?
9. Math or English?
10. Science or history?
11. Group project or solo project?
12. Sports or theater?
13. Concert or festival?
14. Summer job or summer camp?
15. Driver's license now or a car later?
16. Online friends or school friends?
17. Skate park or arcade?
18. Anime or cartoons?
19. Early school start or late school end?
20. Sneaker drop or video game release?
21. Be famous on YouTube or famous in sports?
22. Study with music or study in silence?
23. Prom or homecoming?
24. Senior trip or graduation party?
25. Selfie or group photo?
26. Binge a series or watch a movie marathon?
27. Dyed hair or new piercing?
28. Coffee shop or boba shop?
29. Phone on silent or phone on loud?
30. Brand-new phone or brand-new wardrobe?
31. Game night or movie night?
32. First car: old classic or new basic?
33. Dog walker or babysitter job?
34. Early birthday party or late birthday party?
35. Halloween or the last day of school?

This or that questions for students

Classroom-safe pairs for teachers, librarians and youth leaders. They work as morning warm-ups, brain breaks and a quick way to learn a new class.

1. Pencil or pen?
2. Notebook or laptop?
3. Recess or lunch?
4. Field trip or class party?
5. Homework on weekends or longer school days?
6. Art class or music class?
7. PE or library time?
8. Spelling test or math quiz?
9. Front of the class or back of the class?
10. Write a story or give a speech?
11. Reading inside or reading outside?
12. Science fair or talent show?
13. School uniform or free dress?
14. Bus or car ride to school?
15. Lunch from home or school lunch?
16. Be the teacher for a day or the principal for a day?
17. Fiction or nonfiction?
18. Work alone or work with a partner?
19. Summer break or winter break?
20. Snow day or field day?
21. Highlighters or sticky notes?
22. Pop quiz or big test?
23. Chapter book or graphic novel?
24. Class pet: hamster or fish?
25. Volcano experiment or slime experiment?
26. Learn coding or learn cooking?
27. History museum or science museum?
28. Presentations or worksheets?
29. A long weekend or a half day every Friday?
30. Draw it or write it?

This or that questions for work

Icebreakers that are safe for a team meeting, a new-hire intro or a slow Monday stand-up. Nothing personal, nothing awkward, and each one tells you a little about how someone works.

1. Email or Slack?
2. Video on or video off?
3. Standing desk or sitting desk?
4. Morning meetings or afternoon meetings?
5. To-do list on paper or in an app?
6. Headphones on or open office chatter?
7. Office snacks or office coffee?
8. Big team or small team?
9. Plan the week on Monday or Sunday night?
10. Inbox zero or a thousand unread?
11. Dual monitors or one big monitor?
12. Lunch at your desk or lunch out?
13. Team outing: bowling or escape room?
14. Work early or work late?
15. Start big projects or finish them?
16. Brainstorm out loud or think it over alone?
17. Slides or a document?
18. Dark mode or light mode?
19. Mouse or trackpad?
20. Four 10-hour days or five 8-hour days?
21. Coffee break or walk break?
22. Speak first in a meeting or last?
23. Detailed plan or rough outline?
24. Company swag: hoodie or water bottle?
25. Work playlist: lo-fi or upbeat?
26. Keyboard shortcuts or click around?
27. Friday afternoon off or Monday morning off?
28. Work from a cafe or work from home?
29. Big launch or steady improvements?
30. Deadline pressure or plenty of time?
31. Praise in public or praise in private?
32. Phone call or calendar invite?
33. Clean desk or creative mess?
34. Conference trip or online course?
35. Team lunch or team breakfast?
36. Learn from a mentor or learn by doing?
37. Office plant or office pet?
38. Open-plan office or private office?
39. Quarterly offsite or monthly happy hour?
40. Dress code or come as you are?

This or that icebreaker questions

Fast, low-stakes pairs for meeting new people anywhere: a club's first session, a party where nobody knows each other or a virtual call with strangers. Ask one, then ask why.

1. First day of spring or first snow?
2. Be early or arrive fashionably late?
3. Talk to strangers or stick with friends?
4. Listener or talker?
5. Chess or checkers?
6. Jigsaw puzzle or crossword?
7. Board games or card games?
8. Museum or theme park?
9. Local diner or fancy restaurant?
10. Learn to surf or learn to ski?
11. Camping or glamping?
12. Swim in a lake or swim in the ocean?
13. Hike or bike?
14. Comedy show or live music?
15. Sunglasses or hat?
16. Bookstore or record store?
17. Handwritten letters or emails?
18. Old movies or new releases?
19. Phone wallpaper of pets or of places?
20. Ask for directions or figure it out?
21. Loud laugh or quiet giggle?
22. Photo of the food or eat right away?
23. Trivia night or karaoke night?
24. Fireworks or northern lights?
25. Beach volleyball or bowling?

This or that food questions

Food debates get louder than almost anything else, which is exactly why they make good icebreakers. Use them at dinner, a potluck or a family gathering.

1. Burgers or hot dogs?
2. Fries or onion rings?
3. Chocolate or vanilla?
4. Ketchup or mustard?
5. Breakfast or dinner?
6. Sushi or ramen?
7. Pasta or rice?
8. Cookies or brownies?
9. Pie or cake?
10. Popcorn or chips?
11. Mac and cheese or grilled cheese?
12. Spicy or mild?
13. Hot sauce or ranch?
14. Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?
15. Thin crust or deep dish?
16. Soda or juice?
17. Bacon or sausage?
18. Scrambled eggs or fried eggs?
19. Bagel or croissant?
20. Smoothie or milkshake?
21. Fried chicken or wings?
22. Doughnuts or muffins?
23. Cheesecake or tiramisu?
24. Lemonade or iced tea?
25. Nachos or quesadillas?
26. Salad or soup?
27. Barbecue or picnic?
28. Steak or seafood?
29. Peanut butter: crunchy or smooth?
30. Jam or honey?
31. Dark chocolate or milk chocolate?
32. Gummy candy or chocolate candy?
33. Food truck or sit-down restaurant?
34. Cereal: soggy or crunchy?
35. Mexican food or Italian food?
36. Thai food or Indian food?
37. Cupcake or cake pop?
38. Ice cream: cone or cup?
39. Pickles or olives?
40. Garlic bread or breadsticks?
41. Apple pie or pumpkin pie?
42. Baked potato or mashed potatoes?
43. Cinnamon roll or doughnut hole?
44. Sweet potato fries or regular fries?
45. Tacos: soft or hard shell?
46. Boba or iced coffee?
47. Eat dessert first or save it for last?
48. Buffet or set menu?
49. Home cooking or takeout?
50. Cheddar or mozzarella?

This or that travel questions

For travel lovers, planners and anyone dreaming about the next trip. These are good for long drives and airport waits.

1. Paris or Tokyo?
2. New York or Los Angeles?
3. Europe or Asia?
4. Backpack or suitcase?
5. Carry-on only or check a bag?
6. Road trip or cruise?
7. Train or plane?
8. Tropical island or snowy cabin?
9. Plan every day or explore freely?
10. Hostel or luxury hotel?
11. Local food or familiar food?
12. Souvenirs or photos?
13. Travel solo or with friends?
14. National park or big city?
15. Sunrise hike or nightlife?
16. Guided tour or wander alone?
17. Red-eye flight or early morning flight?
18. Pack early or pack the night before?
19. Italy or Greece?
20. Safari or scuba diving?
21. Disney World or Universal?
22. Visit every continent or know one country deeply?
23. Staycation or vacation abroad?
24. Camping under stars or hotel with a view?
25. Learn the language first or point and smile?

Pop culture this or that questions

Movies, music, shows and games. These work best with friends who have opinions and aren't afraid to defend them.

1. Marvel or DC?
2. Star Wars or Star Trek?
3. Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings?
4. Taylor Swift or Beyonce?
5. Mario or Sonic?
6. PlayStation or Xbox?
7. Nintendo Switch or PC gaming?
8. The Office or Friends?
9. Disney or Pixar?
10. Batman or Superman?
11. Minecraft or Roblox?
12. Rom-com or thriller?
13. Reality TV or documentaries?
14. Watch the movie first or read the book first?
15. Spoilers or no spoilers?
16. Binge it all or one episode a week?
17. Movie theater or couch?
18. Subtitles on or off?
19. Vinyl or streaming?
20. Live concert or music festival?
21. Sequel or original?
22. Cartoon or live action?
23. Superhero movie or animated movie?
24. Halloween movies or Christmas movies?
25. Pop or rock?
26. Hip-hop or country?
27. Board game night or video game night?
28. Trivia show or cooking show?
29. Barbie or Oppenheimer?
30. Pokemon or Digimon?

Personality this or that questions

These say a lot about how someone thinks. Use them to get to know a new friend, a roommate or a teammate a little better.

1. Introvert or extrovert?
2. Leader or follower?
3. Head or heart?
4. Logic or gut feeling?
5. Big picture or details?
6. Sticky notes or memory?
7. Optimist or realist?
8. Talk it out or write it down?
9. Routine or variety?
10. Fix it yourself or call someone?
11. Competitive or just for fun?
12. Lead the group chat or lurk?
13. First to arrive or last to leave?
14. Give advice or ask for it?
15. Tidy or messy?
16. Night in with a book or night out dancing?
17. Go big or play it safe?
18. Forgive or forget?
19. Be respected or be liked?
20. Early decision or last-minute decision?
21. Worry about the past or worry about the future?
22. Be the funny friend or the wise friend?
23. Chat with everyone or stick with one person?
24. Collect things or declutter?
25. Map or GPS?
26. Instructions or trial and error?
27. Remember names or remember faces?
28. Team captain or MVP?
29. Make the plan or follow the plan?
30. Honest feedback or kind feedback?

Deep and hard this or that questions

No easy answers here. These are for long drives, late nights and friends who like a real conversation. Give people time to think before they answer.

1. Know the truth or stay happy?
2. Be loved or be respected?
3. Change the past or see the future?
4. Live forever or live a perfect 80 years?
5. Be rich or be wise?
6. One true friend or a hundred acquaintances?
7. Follow your heart or follow your head?
8. Regret something you did or something you didn't do?
9. Be remembered or be forgotten and happy?
10. Freedom or security?
11. Passion or stability?
12. Adventure or comfort?
13. Lose your memories or lose your future plans?
14. Know how you'll die or when you'll die?
15. Be the smartest in the room or the kindest?
16. Always tell the truth or always keep the peace?
17. A big impact on a few people or a small impact on many?
18. Money or time?
19. Fate or free will?
20. Talent or hard work?
21. Start over or keep going?
22. A quiet life or an exciting one?
23. Be understood or be admired?
24. Big fish in a small pond or small fish in a big pond?
25. Home where you grew up or somewhere new?
26. Solve world hunger or cure all diseases?
27. Relive your best day or skip your worst day?
28. Know what others think of you or never know?
29. One perfect year or ten good years?
30. Explore space or explore the ocean?
31. Nature or nurture?
32. A life of comfort or a life of meaning?
33. Be the hero or be the mentor?
34. Say yes to everything or say no to everything?
35. Chase dreams or build a safety net?

Thanksgiving and Christmas this or that questions

Holiday pairs for family dinners, office parties and the long weekend when everyone is home. Perfect for keeping the table talking between courses.

1. Turkey or ham?
2. Stuffing or mashed potatoes?
3. Cranberry sauce: canned or homemade?
4. Pumpkin pie or pecan pie?
5. Parade or football?
6. Black Friday shopping or online shopping?
7. Leftover sandwich or leftover pie?
8. Real tree or fake tree?
9. White lights or colored lights?
10. Open gifts Christmas Eve or Christmas morning?
11. Ugly sweater or matching pajamas?
12. Hot chocolate or eggnog?
13. Gingerbread house or sugar cookies?
14. Elf or Home Alone?
15. Santa or Rudolph?
16. Snow day or sunny Christmas?
17. Give gifts or receive gifts?
18. Wrap gifts neatly or gift bags only?
19. Secret Santa or family gift swap?
20. Caroling or holiday movie night?
21. Decorate in November or wait until December?
22. Mistletoe or candy canes?
23. Candles or fairy lights?
24. Big family dinner or Friendsgiving?
25. New Year's Eve party or cozy night in?
26. Stocking stuffers or one big gift?
27. Sledding or ice skating?
28. Snowman or snow angel?
29. Fireplace or heated blanket?
30. Hanukkah donuts or Christmas cookies?

Rapid-fire this or that questions

One word against one word, no explaining allowed. Read them as fast as you can and make everyone answer in under two seconds.

1. Salt or pepper?
2. Left or right?
3. Up or down?
4. Hot or cold?
5. Red or blue?
6. Day or night?
7. Sun or moon?
8. Car or train?
9. Lake or river?
10. Stairs or elevator?
11. Fork or chopsticks?
12. Socks or slippers?
13. Pen or keyboard?
14. Jeans or sweatpants?
15. Gold or silver?
16. Heels or flats?
17. Ocean or pool?
18. Piano or guitar?
19. Violin or drums?
20. Tent or cabin?
21. Boat or plane?
22. Stars or clouds?
23. Lion or tiger?
24. Wolf or bear?
25. Eagle or owl?
26. Spring or fall?
27. Math or art?
28. Paper or plastic?
29. Milk or cream?
30. Chips or dip?
31. Lemon or lime?
32. Mint or cinnamon?
33. Pink or purple?
34. Yes or no?
35. Now or later?
36. Brick or wood?
37. Tulips or roses?
38. Mountain bike or road bike?
39. Sketch or paint?
40. Candle or lamp?

How to play this or that

You need two or more people and nothing else. One person reads a pair, everyone answers at once, and anyone who wants to can explain their pick. Keep it moving: the game is best when answers come fast.

• Answer on instinct: give people two or three seconds, not two minutes.
• No "both": picking both or neither doesn't count.
• Ask why sometimes: the follow-up is where the good stories come out.
• Rotate the reader: pass the list to the next person after five questions.
• On a video call: drop the pair in the chat and have everyone type 1 or 2 at the same time.

5 ways to play the this or that game

The basic version never gets old, but these twists make it feel new again:

1. Stand up, sit down. Stand for the first option, sit for the second. Great for classrooms and big groups because everyone moves.
2. Mind reader. Before your friend or partner answers, guess their pick out loud. Score a point for every right guess and see who knows who best.
3. Rapid-fire round. Read ten one-word pairs in a row with no pauses. Anyone who hesitates or says "um" is out.
4. Bracket tournament. Pick 16 things in one category (snacks, movies, cities) and run this or that match-ups until one winner is left.
5. Story template. Post a list of pairs on your story, have friends screenshot it and circle their answers, or use a poll sticker for one pair a day.

How to write your own this or that questions

The best pairs are quick to read and hard to choose between. A few rules help:

• Keep both sides close. "Pizza or tacos" starts a debate. "Pizza or a cold rock" doesn't.
• Stay short. Two to five words a side is ideal. Longer dilemmas belong in a would you rather game.
• Match the room. Use your school, your team's tools or your family's favorite foods.
• Mix light and real. Five silly pairs, then one that makes people think.

Want two-option questions with bigger stakes? Try our 505 would you rather questions. Still bored once the game ends? Browse our list of things to do when you're bored, or let the random activity generator pick something for you.

This or that questions FAQ

What are good this or that questions?

Good this or that questions offer two options that are equally tempting, so people actually have to think. Classics include "Coffee or tea?", "Beach or mountains?", "Cats or dogs?" and "Morning person or night owl?" The 30 best list at the top of this page is the place to start.

How do you play this or that?

One person reads two options, everyone picks one, and players can explain their choice if they want. Answers should come fast, and "both" or "neither" don't count. You can play with two people or a whole room.

What is the difference between this or that and would you rather?

This or that questions are short and quick, usually two words or phrases like "pizza or tacos". Would you rather questions are longer dilemmas that set up a situation, such as "Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?" This or that suits rapid-fire rounds; would you rather suits longer debates.

Is this or that flirty?

It can be, but it doesn't have to be. Most this or that questions are friendly and clean. When couples or people on a date play, it often turns playful, which is why there's a separate flirty section above with 25 pairs that stay sweet rather than crude.

What are good this or that questions for kids?

Keep them short, clean and easy to picture: "Ice cream or cake?", "Dinosaurs or sharks?", "Treehouse or castle?" and "Talk to animals or breathe underwater?" The kids section has 35, and the students section has 30 more for the classroom.

What are good this or that questions for work?

Stick to habits and preferences rather than anything personal: "Email or Slack?", "Video on or video off?", "Dark mode or light mode?" and "Morning meetings or afternoon meetings?" The work section has 40 that are safe for any team meeting.

How many questions should you ask in a round?

For an icebreaker, five to ten pairs is plenty and takes about five minutes. For a party game or a road trip, go for 20 to 30 and mix sections so it doesn't get repetitive.